For every mile of road there are two miles of ditch. Extremes are exaggerations or over-emphasis of a truth. You can be in error simply by emphasis.
I have noticed that some men either are overly confident, even arrogant or they are insecure, not thinking enough of themselves at all. In both cases, the extremes cause the error.
Paul gives some good advice, “Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.”
Notice the emphasis on the self-assessment is based on sober judgment. To think soberly means to have sound judgment, to be in agreement, to be harmonious, or have the same mind. What are you to be in agreement with? Paul says, “in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.” In other words, to have a sober mind assessment of one’s self is to be in harmony or in agreement with God’s Word for you.
The guy who is overbearing and cocky is often internally tormented that he doesn’t measure up to those around him. His boasting and peacocking is a mask of his low self-esteem.
On the other hand, the guy who is constantly emphasizing what he is not good at, or is self-abasing, is also displaying an inappropriate response to error. He is not properly emphasizing what God has given him.
As a man thinks in his heart so is he.
- It is important to have a balance to your self-assessment.
- Don’t over emphasize your weaknesses.
- Don’t over exaggerate your strengths.
- Know what you are good at. Know your strengths. Be willing to say to yourself, “I know that I can make this shot” or “I know that I can close this deal.”
- When someone gives you a compliment don’t apologize, simply say, “Thank you.”
- When you are faced with a challenge draw upon the measure of faith that God has given you.
When your child has fallen short on a task, do you emphasis that failure every day for the rest of his or her life? Of course not, you build them up, focusing on their strengths. It would be unhealthy to constantly remind them of their shortcomings. The same is true for you, if you fall short or make a mistake, don’t rehearse the failure over and over – get over it and move on – change your thinking.
What patterns of poor thinking do you need to change or overcome?