The Capable Man: Session 6
You yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.
John Maxwell defined leadership as influence. The simplicity of this statement captures a very complex debate on what it actually means to be a leader. Leadership is the ability to influence and empower others to change make smart choices. Leadership draws upon the potential of those with whom they are influencing.
Leadership is the ability to empower others to change their choices.
As a capable man, you’ve been selected to lead—to influence men.
Paul told Timothy to be a man worthy of imitation. The example in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity is to make a mark, an impression upon others. (Read 1 Timothy 4:12)
Please understand—we’re seasoned and serious men who are involved in a good work. We’re not playing games! There is a level of maturity that we must bring to the table.
This does not mean that you’re not going to have fun, it means that we need to take this business of speaking to men seriously.
- Integrity commands influence.
- Men become a moral force and emanate spiritual influence.
- A FivestarMan will gain the power to change or affect someone.
- As a capable man, your example will not only empowers others, but you will find that leading men comes with a spiritual empowerment.
- Most of us can describe a man who affected our lives, even if we they were not aware of their direct influence.
Our partnership with you is to provided coaching, content, strategy and structure to reaching men, while you provide relationship. Your relationship is influence.
Don’t underestimate the impact that you’re going to make in the lives of men by being a Capable Man. Your words will become weighty, measured and intentional. You will find yourself being prompted by the Holy Spirit on what to say and equally important—what not to say.
Everyone enjoys a fitting reply;
it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time!
With the position of authority, we must be sober-minded and not flippant with our influence. Even Jesus submitted his words to the direction intent of His Father.
The words I speak are not my own,
but my Father who lives in me does his work through me.
Jesus didn’t wing it (so to speak). He was very intentional when speaking to men.
As we deliver the content (curriculum for Engage and messages for Encounters), you will see there is intentional direction in where we are going. We rely heavily upon the Holy Spirit to give us direction on what to say and how to say it. That doesn’t mean that we’re infallible, just simply working diligently to “speak clearly as we should, making the most of every opportunity, and that our conversation is seasoned with salt.” (Colossians 4:6)
One of the real challenges we’ve seen in ministries to men is using the unintentional approach to leading men. You see this when small groups are not prepared, when men’s events do not have a cohesive message, and in the lack of thoughtful preparation by leaders.
To attract men to the table of authentic manhood and to keep them engaged, we must honor their time by being seasoned, serious in our approach, and confident that what we are speaking has directional intent. Doing so will help them make smart choices.
Next, we will talk about coaching versus accountability.
- Begin to contemplate your conversations with men.
- Don’t be so quick to speak when you haven’t first listened.
- Ask the Holy Spirit for discernment when you are speaking with a man.
- Remember, the Holy Spirit will help you know what to say and what not to say.
- Don’t try to overload a man with too much conversation.
- Don’t allow yourself to be the answer man—the know it all.
- Don’t be squeezed into counseling. You’re a coach that draws out the potential of a man. You’re not the Messiah. You can’t solve his problems. What you can do is lead him to discover his purposes, gain understanding of how to live them out, and passionately pursue authentic manhood.
- Leadership is the ability to empower others to change their choices.
- Integrity commands influence.
- As a capable man, your example will not only empower others, but you will find that leading men comes with a spiritual empowerment.
- With the position of authority, we must be sober-minded and not flippant with our influence.
- John Maxwell defined leadership as influence.
- Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.