Cinco claves para salvar tu matrimonio

Señores, el matrimonio está siendo atacado. Las tasas de divorcio se disparan, las familias se fracturan y los hombres a menudo se sienten impotentes para detener la caída. Pero Dios nos ha dado un plan para la victoria en Efesios 5:23-31, donde Pablo escribe: «Porque el marido es cabeza de la mujer, como Cristo es cabeza de la Iglesia… Maridos, amad a vuestras mujeres, como Cristo amó a la Iglesia y se entregó a sí mismo por ella… De la misma manera, los maridos deben amar a sus mujeres como a sus propios cuerpos».

Antes de hacernos con las llaves, permíteme abordar lo que ofende a la mayoría de las mujeres en este pasaje: «Porque el marido es la cabeza…». Por desgracia, se cometen dos errores. En primer lugar, las mujeres concluyen que esto habla de un liderazgo dominante, y no es así. Habla de un liderazgo de servicio. En segundo lugar, la gente no comprende el protocolo de la autoridad. Se ve claramente en las Escrituras: Dios es el Padre; Jesús está sometido al Padre; un marido cristiano está sometido a Cristo; una esposa cristiana está sometida al marido.

Tu matrimonio puede prosperar si adoptas estas cinco claves bíblicas.

Clave 1: Para salvar tu matrimonio, lidera con propósito

Mi difunto amigo, el Dr. Myles Munroe, dijo: «Cuando se desconoce el propósito, el abuso es inevitable». No podría hacerse una afirmación más cierta respecto a ser marido. Efesios 5:23 te declara cabeza de tu esposa, no como un tirano, sino como Cristo dirige la iglesia: con propósito y visión. Un hombre sin dirección deja su matrimonio a la deriva. Pregúntate a ti mismo: ¿Adónde nos llevo? Dios te creó para dirigir, así que proyecta una visión para tu familia arraigada en la fe, la provisión y la unidad. Da un paso al frente y dirige el barco.

Tu mujer necesita un líder, no un pasajero.

Clave 2: Para salvar tu matrimonio, ama sacrificadamente

El versículo 25 no se anda con rodeos: «Maridos, amad a vuestras mujeres, como Cristo amó a la Iglesia y se entregó a sí mismo por ella». Cristo no se aferró a la comodidad; murió por Su novia. No hay buen matrimonio sin que te cueste algo: tiempo, orgullo, hábitos egoístas. ¿Cuándo fue la última vez que sacrificaste tus deseos por sus necesidades? El amor no es un sentimiento; es una elección de entregarse a diario. Ésa es la norma que Dios estableció.

Clave 3: Para salvar tu matrimonio, di palabras amables y reconfortantes

Paul says Christ gave Himself “to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word” (v. 26). Your home needs more than a paycheck—it needs God’s truth. Are you speaking life into your wife? Pray with her. Share Scripture. Lead devotionals, even if it’s messy at first. A man who washes his marriage in the Word builds a fortress against the enemy’s lies. Start small, but start now. You cannot speak down to your wife, expecting her to live up to your expectations.

Speak kind and comforting words to her.

Key 4: To Save Your Marriage, Cherish Her as Yourself

Ephesians 5:28-29 hits hard: “Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies… No one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for it.” Your wife is a mirror. She reflects your image. Looking at her, you can evaluate what kind of a husband you are. If, after a season of marriage, you do not like what she looks like, it could be your fault, not hers. I know that sounds harsh, but it’s true. Jesus said, «If you have seen me, you have seen the Father.» This shows how the Word is the reflection of the Source. In the same manner, your wife will show what you have been speaking over and to her.

Do you criticize her more than you encourage her? You wouldn’t starve or neglect yourself—so don’t do it to her. Cherish her with your words, your time, your attention. She’s not your adversary; she’s your rib, your partner, your gift from God. Treat her that way.

Key 5: To Save Your Marriage, Stay in Agreement

Verse 31 seals it: “The two will become one flesh.” This is a mystery, but it’s your reality. You can’t be duplicitous and have stability in your marriage. How can two walk together unless you agree on the destination? I’ve never seen a marriage divided without the influence of a third voice speaking into it. Division is the devil’s playground—don’t let resentment, silence, or sin carve a wedge between you. Fight for oneness. Apologize when you’re wrong. Pursue her heart, even when it’s hard. God didn’t unite you to watch you drift apart. You’re one flesh—act like it.

Conclusion

Marriage isn’t a battlefield for the faint-hearted. It’s a proving ground for men who rise to God’s call. Ephesians 5 isn’t just poetry; it’s your playbook. The world may tell you to check out when it gets tough, but God says to step up. Your wife isn’t perfect—neither are you—but she’s yours to lead, love, and lift toward holiness.

I’ve seen marriages on the brink turn around when men grab hold of these keys. It’s not about her changing first; it’s about you taking responsibility. God entrusted her to you, and He’s given you the strength to succeed. The question is: Will you answer the call?

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