Pastor & Key Leader: Session 4

Pastor & Key Leader: Session 4
February 19, 2017 Neil Kennedy


Creating a Culture of Manhood in the Church

A few years ago, David Murrow released a book entitled, Why Men Hate Going to Church. Whether or not we believe in his analysis or subscribe to his conclusions, I do agree that the Church lost the masculine appeal that it had in the beginning.

At first, the Church was risky and those who joined it were taking a bold stand against current culture. David points to the differences that the Message has with men verses women. He says, “Men fantasize about saving the world against impossible odds. Women fantasize about having a relationship with a wonderful man.”

At some point, the Church began speaking excessively on the relationship side of the Message. So much so, the message of the Gospel is often more about the love story of God toward man and vice versa, rather than the redemptive plan for mankind and His conquering efforts over the world. Both are true, but the appeal to the average guy is lost in translation.

Most men do not understand the statement, “Real Men Love Jesus.” Excuse me, but the over-emphasis of a “bromance” with Christ comes across poorly in typical male society. You and I understand the romantic themed worship songs. We embrace the concept, but if we want to create a culture of manhood in the Church, we must understand the disconnect our songs and services often have.

Let me also warn that the other extreme can take place as well. Promoting the ideas of domineering men or militaristic imagery is also excessive. Yes, there are militaristic themes in scripture. There are also comparisons to athletics. However, the over-emphasis of these themes tend to alienate men rather than attract them. Talking as warriors can come across like Tim Allen grunting to represent manhood. Always talking sports seems “high school-ish.”

We have carefully branded the name, FivestarMan, as the theme to promote authentic manhood. Doing so, isn’t overtly religious, but appeals to the ideal that most men have with manhood—the kind of man in the heroic dreams of their boyhood.

We use the term, Centurion, as an example and to describe the protocol of authority. The Gentile soldier that approached Jesus was recognized as having the greatest faith in all of Israel. He is also the first Gentile convert to Christianity (Acts 10). My teaching on this subject helps men honor the authority above them so that they are empowered to lead those they are over. You are welcome to download and read the Centurion Principle.

The balances of the five purposes build on each other. Being adventurous is balanced with being faithful and gallant. Being entrepreneurial is balanced with being philanthropic.

By focusing on the five purposes, all men are drawn because these purposes speak to the original intent of manhood.

Next, let’s talk leadership. Men stepping up to lead.


  • Men want to be the hero. Women want a wonderful man.
  • We must think as a man who is entering the church for the first time.
  • FivestarMan is not militaristic, not juvenile, and not touchy-feely.
  • FivestarMan is authentic manhood.
  • Have you read the Centurion Principle? (It’s a free download.)

Be Strong & Be a Man!

1 Kings 2:2

Neil Kennedy
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