How to Find a Christian Wife
As a Christian man, the pursuit of a wife isn’t just about finding a companion—it’s about discovering a partner who shares your faith, sharpens your purpose, and walks with you toward eternity. Scripture calls us to be intentional, courageous, and gallant in this journey. Proverbs 18:22 declares, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” But how do you find her? As a FivestarMan, embodying the five purposes—adventurous, entrepreneurial, gallant, faithful, and philanthropic—guides you to a godly woman worthy of your pursuit. Here are five biblical and practical steps to lead you there.
1. Find a Christian Wife by Pursuing God First—Let Him Direct Your Path
A FivestarMan knows that true adventure begins with God. Matthew 6:33 instructs, “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Before seeking a wife, seek the Lord. Build your life on prayer, Scripture, and obedience. A man rooted in Christ radiates a confidence that attracts a woman of faith. She’ll see your heart aligns with the One who matters most. Don’t chase romance—chase God, and let Him bring her into your story.
2. Find a Christian Wife by Being Entrepreneurial in Your Preparation
Finding a wife requires initiative, much like an entrepreneur seizing opportunity. Proverbs 24:27 says, “Prepare your work outside; get everything ready for yourself in the field, and after that build your house.” Get your life in order—spiritually, emotionally, and practically. Are you growing in maturity? Can you lead a family with purpose? A godly woman looks for a man who’s ready to steward a household, not just charm her with words. Sharpen your character and skills now, so you’re a man she can trust to build a future with.
3. Find a Christian Wife by Being Gallant—Honor Her as a Daughter of the King
Gallantry is the mark of a FivestarMan in relationships. Ephesians 5:25 calls us to love “as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” Treat every woman with respect, dignity, and selfless care—especially the one you pursue. Be intentional: open doors, listen well, and guard her heart with purity. Don’t play games or rush into physical affection—1 Timothy 5:2 urges us to treat “younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.” This is one of the greatest lessons that you could ever learn in maintaining a healthy relationship with your future wife—she will not only be your wife, but she will also be your sister-in-Christ. Meditate on this because it will help you maintain respect for her because she is a daughter of the King.
A gallant man stands out in a world of casual hookups, showing her she’s worth the wait and the fight.
4. Find a Christian Wife by Staying Faithful—Seek a Woman of Godly Character
Faithfulness isn’t just for marriage—it’s how you search for a wife. Proverbs 31:10 asks, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” Look beyond the surface. Does she love Jesus? Does she live with integrity, kindness, and wisdom? Surround yourself with a Christian community—church, small groups, or ministries—where you can meet women who share your values. Don’t settle for less than God’s best. A faithful man seeks a faithful wife, building a union that honors Him.
5. Find a Christian Wife by Having a Heart for Giving —Serve Others Together
A FivestarMan is generous, reflecting Christ’s love for the world. John 13:35 says, “By this, everyone will know that you are my disciples if you love one another.” As you pursue a wife, look for someone who serves alongside you. Volunteer together, pray for others, or join a mission. A shared heart for giving reveals her spirit and strengthens your bond. Marriage isn’t just about you—it’s a partnership to impact the world for God’s glory. Find a woman whose love spills over into service, and you’ll build a legacy together.
The Gallant Pursuit in Action
Picture this: You’re a man on fire for God, living adventurously in His will. You’ve prepared your life like an entrepreneur, ready to lead. You approach her with gallantry—honest, bold, and pure—showing her she’s a treasure. You seek her faithfulness, matching your own, and together you pour out love philanthropically. This isn’t a fairy tale; it’s a biblical blueprint. Song of Solomon 3:4 captures the reward: “I found the one my heart loves.” The goal is a wife who reflects God’s heart and amplifies your purpose.
Take the Next Step
Finding a Christian wife starts with becoming the man God calls you to be. At FivestarMan, we’re igniting a movement of authentic manhood. I invite you to join the 45-Day Challenge at FivestarMan.com. Over 45 days, you’ll dive into the five purposes, sharpen your faith, and step into the gallant life you’re meant for. Whether you’re single or seeking, this is your chance to align with God’s plan—and maybe meet the woman He’s prepared for you along the way. Will you take the challenge?
Neil Kennedy is the founder of FivestarMan, dedicated to equipping men to live with purpose and passion through biblical principles.
