Can a Man Be Confident Without Being Arrogant
In a culture that often mistakes arrogance for strength, the Christian man has a higher calling: confidence rooted in Christ, not self. Scripture paints a vivid contrast between the proud, who stumble under their own weight, and the faithful, who stand firm in God’s truth. As men of faith—young or seasoned—we’re called to embody a confidence that reflects Jesus, not the world’s swagger. Here are five biblical characteristics of a confident Christian man who walks humbly before his God.
1. A Confident Man Knows His Identity in Christ
A confident man doesn’t need to prove his worth because he knows who he is in Christ. Ephesians 2:10 declares, “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works.” This isn’t a boast in his own abilities but a quiet trust in God’s design. Unlike the arrogant man, who builds his identity on accomplishments or applause, this man rests in being “God’s chosen” (Colossians 3:12). He steps into each day assured, not anxious, because his value is secure in the Creator’s hands.
2. A Confident Man Serves Without Seeking Spotlight
Jesus said, “The Son of Man came not to be served but to serve” (Mark 10:45). A confident Christian man follows this example, lifting others up rather than clamoring for attention. Arrogance demands recognition; confidence gives it away. Whether mentoring a younger brother in faith or supporting his family, he serves with strength and humility. Think of Joseph, who rose to power in Egypt yet used it to save lives, not lord over them (Genesis 45:5). His focus is God’s glory, not his own.
3. A Confident Man Speaks Truth with Grace
Proverbs 16:24 says, “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” The confident man speaks boldly when truth demands it, but he tempers his words with love. He builds up, unlike the arrogant, who wield words to wound or impress. Paul modeled this in Ephesians 4:15, “speaking the truth in love.” Whether correcting a friend or sharing his faith, he’s unafraid yet kind, trusting God to work through his witness.
4. A Confident Man Stands Firm Without Strutting
Daniel faced the lions’ den with unwavering resolve, not a puffed-up chest (Daniel 6:10). A confident Christian man stands tall in trials because his foundation is Christ, not circumstance. Psalm 1:3 likens him to “a tree planted by streams of water,” unshaken by storms. Arrogance struts to mask insecurity; confidence stands steady in faith. He doesn’t shrink from challenges or crow over victories—he simply trusts God’s strength to carry him through.
5. A Confident Man Embraces Weakness as Strength
The world scoffs at weakness, but the confident Christian man knows better. Paul wrote, “When I am weak, then I am strong” (2 Corinthians 12:10). Admitting flaws doesn’t diminish him; it points to Christ’s power. While the arrogant man hides his struggles, this man brings them to God, finding grace in surrender. He’s not perfect, but he’s being perfected, and that assurance lets him lead, love, and live without pretense.
The Contrast in Action
Picture two men: one brags about his latest deal, fishing for praise; the other quietly helps a struggling neighbor, expecting nothing in return. The arrogant man’s confidence collapses when his status fades; the Christian man’s endures because it’s anchored in eternity. Galatians 2:20 sums it up: “It is no longer I who lives, but Christ who lives in me.” That’s the source—Christ, not self.
I’ve seen this transformation firsthand. A friend, once loud and self-absorbed, hit rock bottom. Through prayer and Scripture, he traded pride for peace. Today, he’s a leader—not by shouting, but by serving. That’s the power of a Christ-centered identity.
Living These Characteristics
How do we grow into this? Start with the Word—let Psalm 139:14 remind you that you’re “fearfully and wonderfully made.” Prayer is the act of humility and will give you courage. Surround yourself with men who sharpen you (Proverbs 27:17). Then step out—serve, speak, stand—knowing God equips you for every good work. The world needs men confident in Christ, not consumed by self.
Action Step: Take the 45-Day Challenge
Ready to live these characteristics? Join the 45-Day Challenge at FivestarMan.com. It’s a biblical, practical journey to awaken your authentic identity in Christ. Ditch arrogance, embrace confidence, and become the man God created you to be. Sign up today—your legacy starts now.
Neil Kennedy is the founder of FivestarMan, inspiring men to live boldly for Christ.
