How to Overcome Lust as a Man
Lust is a battle every man faces, a cunning adversary that preys on our God-given desires, twisting them into chains that bind the soul. In my book, Bedding Ishtar, I expose lust not as a mere temptation but as a spiritual force—an ancient demonic spirit personified by Ishtar, the goddess of sensuality, who seeks to enslave men. The Bible warns, “Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes” (Proverbs 6:25, NIV). Yet, victory is possible through Christ. Here are five biblical keys to overcome lust and reclaim your God-ordained purpose as a man.
Key 1: Recognize the Spiritual Battle
Lust is not just a physical urge; it’s a spiritual assault. Bedding Ishtar reveals that pornography and lust are manifestations of a demonic spirit that reduces strong men to “mere bread” (Proverbs 6:26). Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, “Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the powers of this dark world.” Acknowledging this battle shifts your focus from self-discipline to spiritual warfare. You’re not fighting your own desires alone; you’re resisting a force that requires divine power. Begin by praying, “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me” (Psalm 51:10). Awareness of the enemy empowers you to fight with the right weapons—prayer, Scripture, and faith.
Key 2: Flee Temptation, Don’t Flirt with It
The Bible doesn’t tell us to negotiate with lust; it commands us to run. “Flee from sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18). Joseph exemplified this when he fled from Potiphar’s wife, leaving his cloak behind (Genesis 39:12). Bedding Ishtar emphasizes that lust, like Ishtar’s allure, is a trap that thrives on lingering glances. Practical steps include installing accountability software, avoiding compromising situations, and cutting ties with media that fuel temptation. Replace idle moments with purposeful action—exercise, Bible study, or serving others. Fleeing isn’t weakness; it’s wisdom that preserves your integrity and destiny.
Key 3: Pursue Righteousness with Passion
Overcoming lust isn’t just about saying no; it’s about saying yes to God’s design for your life. 2 Timothy 2:22 urges, “Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace.” In Bedding Ishtar, I write that men are designed to channel their passions toward godly purposes, not destructive cravings. Redirect your energy toward your calling—whether it’s leading your family, serving your church, or building a legacy. Set goals that align with God’s Word, like memorizing Scripture or mentoring a younger man. Passion for Christ crowds out the space lust once occupied, transforming your desires into fuel for righteousness.
Key 4: Harness the Power of Agreement
No man conquers lust alone; victory comes through the power of agreement with godly brothers. Matthew 18:19 declares, “If two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.” Bedding Ishtar reveals that Ishtar’s influence thrives in isolation, but agreement in Christ shatters her hold. Seek out faithful men who share your commitment to purity and agree together in prayer to overcome temptation. Join a men’s group to stand united, encouraging each other through struggles and praying for strength, as James 5:16 instructs: “Pray for each other so that you may be healed.” Agreement amplifies your prayers, forging a bond that, like “a cord of three strands” (Ecclesiastes 4:12), cannot be easily broken. This unity empowers you to resist lust with supernatural strength.
Key 5: Rely on God’s Transforming Power
Human effort alone cannot defeat lust; only God’s Spirit brings lasting freedom. Bedding Ishtar teaches that holiness isn’t achieved through discipline but through deliverance. Romans 12:2 calls us to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Daily surrender to the Holy Spirit rewires your thoughts and desires. Meditate on Philippians 4:8, focusing on “whatever is pure, lovely, and admirable.” Prayer, fasting, and worship invite God’s power to break strongholds. As you abide in Christ, His strength becomes yours, fulfilling the promise of 1 John 4:4: “The one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.”
Action Step: Take the 45-Day Challenge
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