“Haven’t you reserved any blessing for me?” – Esau
Father, you cannot underestimate the power of the words that you speak over your children.
I remember the horrific moment when I witnessed a father make a derogatory remark concerning his child. I couldn’t believe it. I saw the embittered look on his child’s face. I am certain that he didn’t think about the repercussions that that comment would have on his child. The deep wound that penetrated her soul, the life long pain that it would cause.
As a father, your words can have the power of life and death. Solomon said, “A wise man’s heart guides his mouth, and his lips promote instruction.” Rather than spewing out insult a father should speak instruction.
Do not assume that your child knows what you know. Teach them the simple things in life. Show them the way to live. Instruct them on the duties that they should perform.
Balancing a checking account. Changing a tire. Knowing what to do in certain circumstances.
Your words reflect your interior motives:
- Cussing reveals your ignorance of a vocabulary.
- Cursing reveals a lack of understanding.
- Criticism reveals arrogance born out of insecurity.
- Cynicism reveals failure to persevere.
Your words affect the future of your children. Your words cultivate your relationship. Unspoken words of affection are not understood. If you do not tell your children what you believe in them, they will have a missing ingredient in their lasting success.
Your relationship with your children should be defined and understood by your words.